You know what’s the worst thing that happens when you’re a bookclub member?
Someone doesn’t like you.
In fact, they might actually like you less.
If you’ve been a bookfriend since the mid-’90s, you’ve probably encountered this situation a couple of times.
As an old-school book-loving friend, you’re used to feeling the need to do everything you can to please everyone else.
You want to know why?
Because everyone is trying to be your friend.
But the truth is, most of us just don’t understand why people hate us.
We don’t have a crystal ball.
We can’t predict how they’ll react to our friendship, or what we might learn from their friendship.
And if they do like you, they don’t necessarily understand why.
The best way to know when to be a book-club member and not is to ask yourself these questions: Is this person going to be happy?
Do they need to get some book advice?
Do I really need to meet them?
The first question you need to ask is, “How will they feel about me?
Are they going to like me?
Is it going to make me a better person?”
And the second question you should ask is: “Am I going to get any book advice?”
If you ask yourself those questions and you do everything possible to be an awesome bookfriend, you’ll probably be surprised by the results.
If the answer to the first question is no, it means you’re probably not the right person to be hanging out with.
And even if the answer is yes, it’s probably going to take some time for the bookclub to realize that.
But for the most part, bookclub members are usually fine with that.
Most of the time, book-friending isn’t about meeting new people or spending time together.
Most bookclubs meet once a month or once a year.
But book clubs are different from traditional book clubs, because book clubs often include a mix of other members.
And the most common bookclub activity involves going to a bookseller to buy a book.
If that bookseller has a strong book review section, she’ll probably offer you free copies of her book.
But if you don’t really want to buy her book, she might ask you to do some shopping or buy her a book, too.
The same is true if she has a book review site where she offers free books.
But many bookclub sites also include a section where you can ask her book recommendations.
This section is called the book club, and it’s where the book-hating members hang out.
Sometimes bookclub people will ask you for a book recommendation.
Sometimes you’ll get a book suggestion.
In both cases, book club members want to get a certain amount of book advice from the bookseller.
They don’t want to read your book or read about it, so they ask you a book recommendations question.
So the best advice that you can give them is, If you like the book, then give me a recommendation.
You’ll often get a lot of books recommendations, but it’s up to you to decide what kind of book you’re going to recommend.
You might even decide to just read the book.
This bookclub-style approach works really well.
You can have a great time with other book club people, because you get to do all the fun stuff together.
You get to meet new people and talk about your book.
And you get some awesome book recommendations as a result.
But when it comes to making sure you meet new bookclub folks, it gets really hard.
If bookclub friends are not satisfied with your book recommendations, you might have to make some tough choices.
If your book is too long, it might be a good idea to read a book by someone else, so you don, too, but you’ll have to read the longer book first.
And book club friends aren’t going to give you a recommendation for a good book that you didn’t read.
They’ll probably say, “I didn’t know that there were books that dealt with the war in Vietnam, so I’ll just read it.”
They’ll even tell you, “But you’re not going to want to see it because it’s too long.”
It’s easy to give up on a book when you feel like you’re being treated poorly.
Book club members can feel that way, too — and it can get really hard to keep going when they don,t feel like they’re getting book recommendations or book club recommendations.
The easiest thing to do is simply start a book and get some friends together.
It might take some work, but they can give you the book recommendations you want, and they can help you make some great book recommendations that will help you and your friends enjoy reading your book together.
Bookclub members love to meet other book friends